How do I get public help in Japan?

Case:Non-Japanese victims of Domestic violence.

Hi I’m Kayco the DV survivor. I have experienced hash separation from my ex. and enjoyed public support as a DV victim.
I hope sharing my experience in English can be somebody’s help in the future.

I don’t have my family in Japan.

How do I get public help in Japan.

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Don’t worry.
Public DV protection can be applied to non-Japanese also.
You can go to a remote DV shelter which you don’t have to worry about money and food for a while. As for the procedure, see the flow chart below.

What’s DV shelter in Japan like?

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Location of each DV shelter is not disclosed to public.
So we don’t know the exact places.
Speaking of a shelter I was in, fairly spacious room with a drawer and futon on tatami floor. One toilet and two bathrooms to share with other three to five families. No kitchen in own room. One dinning room for all the families.
Everything is provided, food, towel, tooth brush, some cloths and so on. No charge. But free meal was tiny portion for all of us. Can’t complain for free meal, so I shared my portion for kids.

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DV protection Flow chart

This is a chart to reach public help. You might rush to a divorce lawyer first, but remember, all of paper work can be done later. SAFETY COMES FIRST. 　Boshi-seikatsu-shien-shisetsu is also known as “Boshi-ryou”. The facility is operated by the prefecture, city, or sometime by a private company.
The facility is like a group home. You have your own kitchen, bathroom, toilet, unlike DV shelter which you have to share with other families.

Acknowledge codependency

This is a very good book to understand yourself and find a way to be yourself again.
The book is written by Ms. Melody Beattie. She introduce you twelve step program to overcome codependency and live your own life.
Thanks to this book, I was able to leave my obsession behind start caring myself.

I strongly recommend this book for DV victims. My favorite key word from her book, is ” Don’t be brown away by ever wind” . You will feel surprisingly free. Try her twelve step program which start with following phrases:

1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol- that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
11. Sought trough payer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understand him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others , and practice these principles in all our affairs.

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this is Japanese version of Codependent no more.

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